Author Archives: Millard J. Melnyk

About Millard J. Melnyk

Motley past, promising future exploring an open, potent understanding of mutuality, individual dignity and personal power through trust. DEAUTHORITARIANIZE EVERYTHING!

Please Follow Me On ReLOVEution NOW!

I’m very pleased to know that this blog, my second one ever, still has followers after all these years. Postings have been sparse for the last while, but now I’m getting some steam up once again. I’ve decided to concentrate … Continue reading

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Do Not Resist An Evil Person

Jesus was just so fucking smart. I like thinking about his teachings in unconventional ways — because conventional ones (like the one spoofed in the meme above) were concocted by religious authoritarians who didn’t (and still don’t) give two hoots … Continue reading

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This Shit’s Easy

Bullshitters aren’t innocent. They bullshit for a reason. If their purposes were honorable, they would be in possession of facts, of the truth of what’s really going on, and they wouldn’t need bullshit. Resorting to bullshit proves dishonesty on a … Continue reading

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Real Holiness

I’m returning to the notion of holiness which, like so many other ideas I’ve thought through, has a genuine, healthy interpretation that our culture has bastardized and perverted. Holiness has nothing to do with the things that people typically associate … Continue reading

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God Is Black — He Told Me So

God is black. If you read translated source material that theological beliefs are built on, or read theologically foundational, authoritative writings like those of early Christianity’s so-called “Church Fathers”, or Augustine, Aquinas, Pseudo-Dionysius, etc., you’ll see that “God is black” … Continue reading

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The Lord

I’m in the process of chipping away the myths encrusting the concept of authority so as to reveal its incoherent core — meaning its essential irrationality. This is just a small chip along the way. Try substituting “the Lord” with … Continue reading

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Fools

A couple of Bible verses from long past Christian days keep recurring to me, because I see them played out regularly. It’s really quite revealing. A fool does not delight in understanding, But only in revealing his own mind. — Proverbs 18:2   … Continue reading

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Standing in Truth — Without a Crutch

No matter what you think the truth is, and no matter what you think knowing the truth amounts to, here’s something that you can’t get around… If you know the truth because others convinced you that it’s the truth, (“truth” … Continue reading

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Evil Bastard

I’m reading Jack Miles’s God: A Biography. His chapter on Job convinces me that: “The Lord” (Yahweh) of the Jews was a psychopath. “God” (elohim) referred to benevolent entities. The “Judeo-Christian” tradition is an amalgam of beliefs that Jesus expressly … Continue reading

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Lying

Just out on my other blog, but very relevant to Christians and faith, check it out! “Lying” on Millard’s Blog A few excerpts: When we feel powerless, lying gets really attractive. Lies are like mice. They can freak the problematic … Continue reading

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Give the Guy a Hand

      Check out my new page on Patreon: https://www.patreon.com/MillardJMelnyk I’m finally asking for help to support my work. Here’s a peek: (Click above to read more…) If you like what I write and where it’s headed, then help … Continue reading

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Follow the Blessing

I haven’t posted here for a long time. Christianity per se just hasn’t been much on my radar. Today’s post on my other blog ought to keenly interest Christians, so here’s a link to the article: Follow the Blessing. Here’s … Continue reading

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Overcoming Evil With Good

I think a lot about what it means to “overcome evil with good”. There’s a lot of crap going on that qualifies for extremely undesirable and detrimental (my working definition of “evil”) and we seem to know squat about how … Continue reading

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Violent Love

In our violence-ridden, non-violence espousing, uber-offendable culture, we forget that men and women of peace are also men and women of violence, hatred, and anger. We suffered fools because they filled the world with their toxic counterfeits of “power” and … Continue reading

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Christ Manifested in the Flesh

This one’s a little Bible study on one of the most misunderstood concepts in the New Testament. 1 Timothy 3:16 And without controversy great is the mystery of godliness; He who was manifested in the flesh, Justified in the spirit, … Continue reading

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Unconditional Love

http://www.aish.com/sp/so/Love-without-Conditions.html#.UzxOkSBXFyg.facebook Wow. What a piece of writing. I’m awed. As to whether we love unconditionally, ever, I liked the way she answered it experientially. I think it isn’t as tough a question as we often think, though. It helps to … Continue reading

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The God Debacle

I don’t participate in the God Debacle anymore, because I find it profoundly lacking intellectual honesty on both sides of the question. The argument between atheists and theists has all the earmarks of a debate about a third party that’s … Continue reading

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Idiots

What’s to be done with idiots? We all know that every trouble of the world is some idiot’s fault. Just ask anyone. Regardless what the problem, idiots are behind it, screwing things up for pleasure, pain, or profit. My lifelong … Continue reading

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Invitation

A recent meme proclaimed “Capitalism Kills Love” and I agree. In fact, capitalism is a theory that assumes that God and love are irrelevant. That got me thinking about how we regard the universe. Our sciences regard humans as the … Continue reading

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Temptation

The temptations in your life are no different from what others experience. And God is faithful. He will not allow the temptation to be more than you can stand. When you are tempted, he will show you a way out … Continue reading

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Redemption

The Christian church says a lot about redemption, but demonstrates a glaring lack of competence to redeem. The proof? Christians invest far, far more into arguing that they are redeemed than showing and living it. The church’s version of redemption … Continue reading

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Is God Hiding?

I often hear atheists and skeptics raise the “lack of evidence” objection to the possible existence of God. I’ve rarely–never, actually–seen any take time to consider how it would feel to be right there, presumed imaginary, then dared to “prove” … Continue reading

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Intimidation

I got beat down But I stood up You criticized my standing up It was not to your liking Alright But stand I will I got stifled But I spoke up You criticized my voice It was not to your … Continue reading

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Senses

They told me, “This is the way: gouge out your eyes.” So I did. Then they said, “We’ll lead you.” They told me, “This is the way: burn off your ears.” So I did. Then they said, “We’ll interpret for … Continue reading

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Pigs and Pearls

Do not give what is holy to dogs, and do not throw your pearls before swine, or they will trample them under their feet, and turn and tear you to pieces. — Matthew 7:6 Why do pigs trample pearls underfoot? … Continue reading

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Clothes

The Bible’s use of the metaphor of clothing is intriguing. Here’s a read on it that I guarantee you never heard from the pulpit…

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The Tyranny of Money

Prison is prison, whether it’s a bad job, a bad relationship, or literally trapped by exploiters or tyrants. No one likes the tyranny of money, but we can’t fathom a way to get free from it. So we do what … Continue reading

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Hearing the Voice of God

The biggest single hindrance to hearing the voice of God is believing that we don’t already hear it. Who gave you to believe that? Right–the same people who told you to come to them, that God tells them what you … Continue reading

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Draft of Constructive Engagement Paradigm (ICSA Conference, Italy)

LOL, not that I expect anyone to actually READ 70 pages, but it’s the best I can do under the circumstances. In another year or so it will be down to only 60 pages, HAHA! This is still in draft. … Continue reading

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Constructive Engagement Paradigm (ICSA Conference, Italy)

I’m headed to Trieste, Italy, to present a paper proposing a “Constructive Engagement Paradigm” at the annual conference of the International Cultic Studies Association. ICSA is a network including both professionals and non-professionals who are “concerned about psychological manipulation and … Continue reading

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An Aspect of the Death of Jesus Christ

Paul the Apostle wrote quite at bit about the death of Jesus Christ. Many people (who care to wonder about such things, LOL!) think he referred to the physical death of Jesus and his supposed separation from the Father. That’s … Continue reading

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Why Christians Are Pansies

This is the kind of inflammatory piece I like to write from time to time. Check that. I hate writing them, actually. I hate the fact that they need to be written. I hate the bullshit that makes them necessary. … Continue reading

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On Trust

The more we trust, the less reassurance we need, and the more implicit our expressions of affection become. For one thing, the more secure we are in a relationship, the safer we feel to move out from the relationship into … Continue reading

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Of Liberty and Laughter

I’ve been getting out and meeting people lately, something relatively new for a reclusive homebody like me. I met with a great group of people last night to discuss an interesting topic. What happened took me by surprise. I usually … Continue reading

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Narcissism

I’ve been interested in narcissism for a long time, partly ‘cuz I is one, as are we all. Also, because some of the most important people in my life were and are narcissists, big ones and little ones. Narcissism has, … Continue reading

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To Trust or Not to Trust

I’m learning that I don’t need to know hows, whys, and wherefores before I commit myself to something good. That’s what following our bliss/following the Spirit means to me: first commit to the good that I love, then cooperate in … Continue reading

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Unidentified Divine Objects

It just occurred to me this morning how simple it is to identify God and “God things” (an expression my Evangelical friends use, as in, “it’s a God thing.”) We get to identify God for ourselves, not others. That requires … Continue reading

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Join Me on Crushing Shit and Shitty People

I’m drawn lately to work on a blog I started a while back but haven’t paid much attention to. I can only write so much in a day, so my posts here will probably slow down somewhat. Crushing Shit and … Continue reading

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Exploring the Dark Side

I’m looking for people who want to go farther spiritually than just explore the light side. Too many are afraid of the dark side. It’s real, and we need to learn how to deal with it effectively. Most modern spiritual … Continue reading

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Hypocrite

Yes, I know what day it is. 🙂 I considered delaying this, but all the reasons to wait were bad ones. Pleasantry in the name of love is easy to accept, even when it’s insincere. Harsh truth is almost always … Continue reading

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Demand Love

Owe nothing to anyone except to love one another… — Romans 13:8 Many people read those words to mean, “Don’t let yourself get into debt, except for loving each other.” Others read it, “Take care of all your debts, so … Continue reading

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What Good Are Laws?

This is an intentionally ire-raising piece addressed to everyone who loves to talk about God and love but remains clueless about what they are. So, you who love to talk, answer me this. If we have God’s love in our … Continue reading

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Mother of Lies

(This was written specifically about the Christian Church, but is no doubt applicable to other religious institutions.) Does the church lie? Of course it does. Is the church a liar (insofar as we can consider any organization or movement to … Continue reading

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Authority, obligation, and duty

The Bible says, “There is no fear in love; but perfect love casts out fear, because fear involves punishment.” 1 John 4:18 So, authority that involves punishment is a stranger to love, because love banishes the fear that empowers such … Continue reading

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Trust, Belief, and Faith

For as long as I’ve been trying to understand truth, at least since high school sophomore philosophy, I’ve struggled with three terms: trust, belief, and faith. The more I’ve asked and read about them, the muddier the waters have gotten. … Continue reading

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Cult Thinking Explained

Cults continue to mystify most people, even those intimately familiar with them. This bothers me. I was a fundamentalist and then a quasi-cult member for more than 20 years. I should understand how cult thinking works; understanding thinking is what … Continue reading

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Fundamentalism

The root problem with fundamentalism is ridiculously simple, and it’s not what most people think. We might call fundamentalism inane or insane if it weren’t so often deadly serious. Dismissing and ridiculing it won’t help us understand it. As clearly … Continue reading

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Churches

I tried to explain to a friend recently why I have little interest in “fellowship” or any kind of church involvement. That got me thinking about churches. I love solitude. I enjoy being “alone.” Most of the stuff that goes … Continue reading

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Controlling the Narrative, Part 5: Outcome

(This is the last in a five-part series of posts. To start at the beginning, click here.) In Controlling the Narrative, Part 4: Solution, we saw how answering “Says who?” makes the power of Paul’s identity solution accessible to us. … Continue reading

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Controlling the Narrative, Part 4: Solution

(This is fourth in a five-part series of posts. To start at the beginning, click here.) In Controlling the Narrative, Part 3: Method, we saw how Paul settled his identity quandary. In this part, we’ll see how answering “Says who?” … Continue reading

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