Violent Love

In our violence-ridden, non-violence espousing, uber-offendable culture, we forget that men and women of peace are also men and women of violence, hatred, and anger.

We suffered fools because they filled the world with their toxic counterfeits of “power” and we, fearing to be fools, foolishly laid down for it, letting them tread us thin and batter us until we lost any concept of genuine powers or how to use them.

No one who loves lays down for abuse and oppression. Everyone who loves, fights. We just don’t fight the way that fools do. They fight against people for “law” and “order” and “morality” and “righteousness” and “the greater good” and even “God”. We fight for and together with people against their bondage and their bonds.

After looking around at them with anger, grieved at their hardness of heart, he said to the man, “Stretch out your hand.” And he stretched it out, and his hand was restored.
— Mark 3:5


From the days of John the Baptist until now the kingdom of heaven suffers violence, and violent men take it by force.
— Matthew 11:12


But of the Son He says:
“Your throne, O God, is forever and ever,
And the righteous scepter is the scepter of his kingdom.
You have loved righteousness and hated lawlessness;
Therefore God, your God, has anointed you
With the oil of gladness above your companions.”
— Hebrews 1:8


For though we walk in the flesh, we do not war according to the flesh, for the weapons of our warfare are not of the flesh, but divinely powerful for the destruction of strongholds. We are destroying speculations and every lofty thing raised up against the knowledge of God, and we are taking every thought captive to the obedience of Christ, and we are ready to punish all disobedience, whenever your obedience is complete.
— 2 Corinthians 10:3-6

It doesn’t much matter how you understand the implications of those statements — what they advocate is clear. Anger and grievance. Love and hate. War, weapons, destruction, captivity, and punishment.

If there is no place in your views for these, your views are impotent, leaving you to pray, hope, or “wait on the Lord.” Optimism doesn’t remotely approach “…the power of God; by weapons of righteousness for the right hand and the left…” If your answer to atrocity is that Jesus will make it right “when he comes back,” you won’t like it when he comes back and does it, because he is here to enable us to make it right now, but instead you refuse him and avoid, evade, object, and deny — just like a deserter. In what way will you be “with him” then?

If violence is foreign to you, don’t name God and profess love, because you know neither. Instead, shut your mouth and learn — you don’t know what you’re talking about. If you don’t know how to hate, your love is a joke and you are a liar. If you aren’t familiar with it, you need experience. Don’t feign maturity, and don’t pretend that hatred has no place. Grow up.

Love is a weapon, and there are plenty of strongholds and speculations and lofty things to be destroyed, all of which keep people enslaved, fearful, isolated, and powerless. All the feel-good fluff-love in the world hasn’t freed them, because it can’t, because it isn’t true.

You want salvation? You want the power of life and of God? You want rivers of living water flowing from your innermost being, inspiring and empowering you and others? You want to liberate? Then get real. This is no game.


About Millard J. Melnyk

Motley past, promising future exploring an open, potent understanding of mutuality, individual dignity and personal power through trust. DEAUTHORITARIANIZE EVERYTHING!
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6 Responses to Violent Love

  1. w2tsa says:

    Excellent Millard! The reason why most people will not understand what your saying is because most people need rules and regulations which are much easier to follow than God’s Will. Peace…David

    • Thanks David! Nice to hear from you. How are you doing?

      • w2tsa says:

        Hi Millard…well….surviving. Wife’s MS is starting to take a toll on her…may have to start the 1000 buck a month CO-PAY MS drugs soon. UUGH…. My Part D drug plan I had for the last 4 years with ZERO deductible has just decided to jump to a 500 buck deductible. (although they said my premiums would drop from 102 bucks to 82 bucks..thanks guys!) I guess that must be my contribution to obamacare….”just in time for the MS drugs!” Hope all is well with you and your family. BTW..I really like your articles…I learn a lot from them…God bless….David

  2. Yeah, getting old isn’t for the faint of hear, lol. I’m good, family doing well, boys taking off on adventures. 😉

    Thanks for the compliments, too!

  3. Peter says:

    Violent love needs courage and a strong foundation. Children need to be taught before they can learn to think for themselves.But where are the teachers who can really help the youngsters develop meaningful foundations – that in general will not come from religion!

    • I agree Peter. Religion is itself a form of violence. Telling others that they don’t know and need to listen to us (as every authoritarian religion does, even if ever so subtly) is spiritual terrorism. Forcing our ideas on them is spiritual rape. Erasing, shunning, and blackwashing them is spiritual murder. All standard operating procedures in many, if not most, religions.

      Where are the teachers who can help youngsters? Just ask the youngsters! They show us every day where they are. They are the ones who are cool, awesome, to whom kids flock. And they are learning all the time, all kinds of things. They are the ones who hold out promise and hope. The problem is that many (most?) of them do so in order to entrap and eventually exploit the kids. We’ve got to break that cycle.

      True authority is granted and invited from below, not imposed from above. The imposers only understand force, which is why we need to learn how to be violent in our love. It’s not the solution. There needs to be more. But without shooting some alligators, no one can last long enough in the swamp to drain it.

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